Show Up and Take Responsibility
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[00:00:00] Okay. This week in clinic, we are addressing those who expect to be fixed just by showing up. When I was a freshman in high school, I got kicked out. ~I. I~ will go into that on another episode, but for this episode, I want to address what happened after I got kicked out. I went to a continuing education program where I was placed with a bunch of misfits, and I found out very, very quickly that that was not the place that I wanted to be.
So, ~um,~ while I'm there. ~I am, you know,~ thi this program, it's designed to get people back into high school or back into middle school or whatever program that they're in now you can just go through the ropes, right? And you just show up. ~Um. You, you~ have these block times ~to, to~ go over, ~you know,~ self-paced study, ~you know,~ your sciences, social [00:01:00] studies, the math, ~um,~ and ~you can, you can~ just be there for a semester, again, go through the ropes and you go right back to school where a lot of times you end up doing the exact same thing that got you kicked out in the first place.
And you're right back into the program. And I've seen this. Although I've only got kicked out once. ~I, I~ know of other people who got, ~you know,~ kicked out multiple times. ~Um,~ I saw this and I did not want to be in that group of people. So, ~uh, I, I~ took it upon myself to do something that those students were not doing, and that was to really engage myself, to really focus and to make sure that I did not.
Get kicked outta school again. All right. So ~a, a, a~ big reason, ~uh,~ why I got kicked out was because ~I wanted to, I wanted~ a little attention right now. This is a small want compared to, I definitely wanted to like, get outta high school. I wanted to, ~you know,~ go to college, ~you know,~ undergrad. ~Um,~ [00:02:00] but I was focusing on the small one and then.
~You know,~ after going to this program, I really started to lean into that strong want, which was, this is not the life of me. I need to get outta here. So this is block time to go over math. As I mentioned, this is block time to go over social studies. So this was new to me. This was different in that when I had math class, there's this sort of.
Passive learning, right? ~I go, I go~ into the class, I sit down and I just let the teacher talk to or at me, ~you know, for, for~ about an hour, ~you know,~ with other students. I'm in the classroom like that. That's what high school was like before I get kicked out now, then I'm in this continuing, ~uh,~ education program.
There is no instructor to do that. You learn whatever you learn because you chose to. Right. So ~I, I~ wasn't doing like addition or subtraction. ~You know,~ when I [00:03:00] got out, ~I, I~ was actually placed in a pretty advanced class. ~Um,~ my, the instructor, ~uh,~ before I got kicked out, ~she, she, she~ wouldn't be upset, but she'd get a little frustrated because ~I, I~ would do all the math problems in my head.
And she wanted to see my work. She knew I wasn't cheating, but she just wanted to see the work. She wanted to know how like my brain worked and ~I,~ it was too easy for me to do that. So. Now that I'm learning calculus, I'm like, all right, what is a function? And ~I'm, I'm~ peering over this and ~I'm, I'm~ really trying to understand it, but again, I can go at my own pace with this.
So ~if, if, if~ something makes sense, I'm not sitting with it for, ~you know,~ an extra 10 to 15 minutes while another student keeps raising their hand to try to figure it out. That attitude that I had ~in, in~ advancing myself to do calculus, I took that to high school. When I returned, it got to the point where in every class, I mean every class [00:04:00] teacher will ask a question, and I'm the first one with my hands up always, every single time.
First one with my hands up. And that was because when that class ended during lunch or when I got home, I'm looking over this material now, ~J just, I, I, I~ told you I had already gotten kicked out, so, ~you know,~ people don't get kicked out by being the best student. Right. ~They, they~ do cool stuff and I was doing the cool stuff and that got me kicked out.
So when I'm back in high school, I'm now doing the uncool stuff. Yes, I was in the library going over the stuff when I got off of, ~you know,~ the bus, ~you know,~ go home and. ~You know,~ I'm opening up the book and I'm looking over this stuff.
Right, so ~I, I~ found out that if my job is to go to college, then I should really show up for that job. I should really show up, ready and [00:05:00] prepared to do what I have to do, and no longer rely on this sort of passive instruction. I should no longer rely on, ~um,~ someone just give, Hey, ~uh,~ you just need to learn this like that.
~That's, that's~ simply not enough. Not if you want to excel. So I bring this up. Yeah, because I do have clients who show up to the clinic and they just expect to be fixed and say, hi, my name is Blankety Blank. And they'll lie down on the table and they'll say, fix me. And I say, ~uh,~ could you please sit up for me?
I need you to sit up for me because, ~uh,~ I need to tell you. I don't fix people. ~Uh,~ we're going to both help you fix yourself.
We're gonna help you fix yourself because you, ~you know~ what your big want is, and I believe I know what that big want is as well. You want to remain [00:06:00] capable. You want to remain strong, flexible. You want to be able to show up for. ~Or your, your~ daughter, ~your, your~ son, your grandchildren for yourself. ~You, you~ want to show up, maybe you wanna show up for your friends.
You want to be able to play basketball, volleyball, tennis over the weekend. You want to be able to be present, ~physic,~ physically, ~athletically.~ You want to be there and. You don't do that just by showing up because I went to that ~continuing continuing~ education program and those that just showed up will ~show show~ up again and ~again.~
If you feel like you are incapable of doing something, if you feel like you are lacking ~in, in~ a physical space or activity, please reach out to me. You can go to my website at kinesmovement.com. Book an appointment. ~Uh,~ just to say that, Hey, ~I, I, I'd~ like the consult because [00:07:00] you going to need to do your job. And because, ~you know, I, I~ used the example of being in school. Now you're outta school. Life is your teacher right now. ~You,~ now you have to show ~up, raising~ your hand for life.
So ~I, I~ want you to show up with your hands up. ~I'll catch you.~ I'll catch you guys on the next one.
